The brain in love and Invisible Forces

Anthropologist Helen Fisher asks questions such as "Why do we crave love so much?" She quotes great writers such as Walt Whitman, " I would stake all I have for you." Her questions are those which ask what the specific reasons are scientifically for people to fall in love and need another person so much that they would even give their life for love. She asks what is our physical need for love. To seek the answer she participated in interviewing people who had just been dumped or rejected to oversee the results of their MRIs. This gave her an understanding of the way the brain reacts after a broken heart. The studies revealed that when a person is in love with another the brain produces large amounts of dopamine which is located in the lower part of the brain. This part of the brain is the system that controls wanting and craving and it becomes more active when you don't get what you want.
During a romantic relationship, not a lustful one a person will always be thinking of their significant other especially if they spend a lot of time together and become a large part of their life. It also especially in the beginning of a relationship allows you to ignore any flaws and become very tolerant and happy. The levels of dopamine in the reward system become very high when you are around that person. Once the relationship has ended unexpectedly or badly the good feelings that the person allowed you to feel turn into confusion and a yearning to fix the problem. Fisher relates the feelings of a break up to be very similar to a person in rehab. These people go through "relationship relapse and withdrawls". For example a friend of Fisher's recently broke up with her boyfriend of 2 years. She will be driving and hear a song on the radio that triggers her memory of him. All the same cravings to be loved come back which is a withdrawal and she has to pull over to the side of the road to cry.
Romantic love can be addictive and that could possibly be why we all crave to be loved. 100 species of animals have favoritism and chemistry for choosing the right mate. This is the core root for the expression "love at first sight". The feelings and sensations of reward and ecstasy that come from being in a romantic relationship can last for a lifetime with some couples. These feelings can last for up to 35 years later. Fisher goes on to ask," Why do we fall in love with one person over another?" Most of the time it has to do with common backgrounds, levels of intelligence and state of mind. The most important thing is chemistry. No one really knows why certain people were meant for each other. What we do know is that while in love their is no greater natural feeling.

Speaking of being loved and accepted Tony Robbins motivational speaker and leader of many charities, asks the question " Why do we do what we do? Whats driving you?" What makes a difference in peoples lives. He says some things that drive us are our sense of achievement and sense of contribution. Our decision making abilities and our past will determine our future. Our emotional levels have almost everything to do with achieving your goals. With the right balance of emotions and a healthy control over those emotions the sky is the limit. There are invisible forces that motivate everyones actions. People must know their personal desires, goals, targets, drives, and what motivates them. People need 5 things in their lives to be balanced emotionally.

1.) Certainty- You must be certain before you achieve. Without certainty there is no motivation. Become certain before completing a task what your results will be and understand your actions without just going about the motions.
2.) Variety-Try new things and find what works for you. Don't get caught up in a bad routine.
3.) Connection and Love- We all need to feel loved. Whether it be found through a partner, your friends, family, being surrounded by nature, animals, pets, God, whatever makes you feel love you have to have it in your life.
4.) Critical Importance- We all subconsciously long to feel accepted and able to contribute our talents and personalities for the greater good. Its not about ME its about WE.
5.) Grow to Change and Adjust- Accept changes in your life and adapt to your surroundings. Move forward.

People usually do not start going though these steps all at once until something traumatic happens in their life that will make them appreciate their own lives more. Usually relating to their first encounter with the death of a loved one. People need to not wait for this to happen and explore their own web so we can appreciate ourselves and try to understand our own emotions and how it effects others. If we all learned to understand each other better starting with our own soul we would all realize that we all want the same things and we will be united.